There is a lesson in Proverbs 19:19 which can be hard to apply. It says: “A man of great anger will bear the penalty; for if you rescue him, you will only have to do it again.”
This passage is not only talking about anger; it calls for what has been labeled “tough love.” There are times when a person has brought something upon himself, and he must “bear the penalty” in order to really absorb the lesson God is trying to teach him. In the example of this verse, it is the person’s anger which has brought about the penalty, but there are many other potential causes as well. When a person is in a situation like that, you need to let him “bear the penalty”, for if you “bail him out”, he is not going to learn, and as the verse says, “you will only have to do it again.” He won’t learn until you do.

It is hard for us, who care about someone, to let that one we love (son, daughter, friend, whoever) suffer the consequences of their poor decisions. And this principle certainly doesn’t mean that we are not to care about people, or that we are never to help them. But it does mean that we need discernment to see that there are TIMES when we need to let someone “bear the penalty” of their actions, so that they can learn what God is trying to teach them. If you don’t, they will continue to drain your resources until you are either unable to help them any longer, OR until you learn to do what is really best for them, and apply this scripture! It may be hard — both for them and for you! — but it is best in the long run. Perhaps this applies to someone you know? God is saying: apply the tough love, and “let him bear the penalty.”